Monday, 15 January 2007

It should just be or work it shouldnt take all this effort

I have had a thought ok with "B" I can talk for hours on the phone I can talk to her about anything and I care about her and I get Jealous when she tells me about her Shenannigans (not all of them just some) ....

I know Jealousy is not good she is the only female I ever see that emotion for 11 Years this has been going on remember and I never got Jealous over othe r partners....

I worry about her.....

But I don't know.......

I think about "You" as much if not more but in a different way I can talk to her as well but we have some of those push each others opinions conversations.....

The thing is about "you" she mentally pushes me...... ;)

Where as "B" knows me, we apparently know each other.....

I know I need to take me time.....

Somebody sprinkle me with the patience dust please ;)

*note I should add Blond Girl was highly responsible for this post as well as many other commenteers and I would like to thank you all greatly for your comments*

8 comments:

Carmi said...

It's a tough road to navigate, but I suspect it's one we've all been on at one time or another.

I hope we can continue to help you find your way along its hard-to-follow path. You deserve happiness, and I hope you find it soon. And for keeps.

Blond Girl said...

Glad I could help you. The only other thing I can think of to add is this - and I should have said it earlier: It can be the right thing and still be scary - as I'm sure you've ascertained from reading my blog. So, once you make your choice (sprinkling of patience dust here****), then jump, even if it is scary.

When I met Champs, it was right. We knew it right away. Of course, he was three states away and getting together was hugely life changing for both of us. We jumped in, though, and have never regretted it. You're 30 now, not 20, so it hopefully you've matured enough to recognize what you want and what meets your needs - and where you meet someone elses.

I won't say "Good Luck", since that's not really what you need. How about "Good knowing"?

Kristi Mantoni said...

Which one would you be most lost without? This might help you decide.

Bob-kat said...

My, what a conundrum. I'm not great at giving advice as everyone is different and what works for one person in one situation may not necessarily apply. I hope you figure something out. Perhaps it just means listening to your gut instinct? What would make you happiest?

Paige said...

Good luck for traveling that road so well avoided by so many.

Hey there, here by way of Michele's extended meet and greet

Mr. Althouse said...

I think you think too much. Just get out of your own way. I can tell you from my own experience as well as that of others, if one tries to hard to hold on to someone - often the opposite occurs.

If this is meant to be, it will. It you make it be, it might not - even it it was otherwise meant to be.

So here's the $64,000 question: Do you have the faith necessary to see this through - no matter what the outcome? Can you accept that what is supposed to happen will and that any help on your part could be counterproductive? Does knowing this help give you the patience you sound like you know you need?

Only you know the answers. Hope this helps.

BTW: Jealousy springs from fear - What are you afraid of?

OH! I almost forgot - alcohol does not help in relationship building - it just doesn't.

Mike

SeaBelly said...

belly time

Mr. Althouse said...

And now, Michele sent me,

Mike